The "M" Word: 7 Reasons Why I DON'T Believe in Marriage

Jul 24, 2014

Reason #1

I have never in my life seen a happily married couple 10-15-20 years out. ESPECIALLY a couple who got married in their teens or early twenties. Sure, they have beautiful pictures scattered across the internet of happy old people celebrating their 75th anniversary or whatever but in real life; in MY life, I have never witnessed it.

Reason #2

It is entirely too easy to get divorced these days. What happened to "in sickness and in health"? Or the really big one: "til death do us part"? Those vows obviously don't mean shit anymore. 

Reason #3

Too many people only get married for the ceremony. 
You foolish little thing you. You do realize that once the excitement of the celebration has died down, you're now committed to a lifetime with one single person, right? Anddd you've decided that you found that person before you even hit 23? HAH. Okay. 

Reason #4

The only guarantee that we as humans have in this life is that every single thing changes. Who's to say that 5 years down the road you aren't going to resent the hell out of your spouse and fall completely out of love or realize that it was actually more infatuation than love to begin with. Then what? (See reason #2) 

Reason #5

When/if I ever do get married, that poor guy better love me beyond the ends of the Earth because I take that shit seriously. Til death do us part, baby. <- And I'm honestly just not ready for that commitment yet. I'm only 21 y'all, there's no way in hell. 

Reason #6

I literally laugh out loud when I see a new person my age that's gotten engaged. My first thought is always "HA that fucking sucks". So, I guess the way most people think about having babies at my age, that's the way I think of the "M" word. But you know what the difference is? You will never question the love your child has for you. Your child will never cheat on you or intentionally hurt you. Your child WILL always be there for you, they will see every single one of your flaws and love you all the same. And you will know that you're doing the most rewarding thing in this world because you literally cannot be replaced. Wives, they come a dime a dozen. Piece of shit husbands? Even more so. So good luck with that.

Exhibit A.

Reason #7

It seems to me that a lot of people get married for the title of being a "Mrs. so and so". People give themselves titles because they want or feel the need to prove something.  I have nothing to prove to anyone but myself, so what's the point?

Now, this list could go on forever because the more I type the more reasons I realize are true for me. However, I'm sure I've already offended someone with my observations thus far and that's not really my intent. I developed this list because more often than not, when someone sees me in public carrying my daughter they almost immediately make a comment about my hypothetical 'husband'. Because I have a daughter so there must be a husband, right? And if not, I'm immediately someone with no morals who is obviously confused about right and wrong because I can still proudly wear a smile knowing that I'm NOT married, nor do I intend to be. Which then leads to the looks of pity I receive when I let slip to anyone that I, in fact, don't believe in such a thing as marriage.  So this post today is more for myself I suppose, than anything else. If I've offended you in some way, that was certainly not my intent. 

Does anyone else feel the same about marriage as I do? Or maybe not even about marriage in general but young marriage (as in, under the age of 25)? 

Feel free to leave a comment ! :)


First Time Mom Tips From the Mother of a One Year Old

Jul 10, 2014

I work in a very small office (3 people total, including myself) for a small consulting company about 20 minutes from my house. A few days ago I got a baby shower invitation from one of my co-workers for him and his wife who are expecting their first baby in August. Soo exciting! And let me be the first to say - she is just so dang cute pregnant. Granted, I've only worked for the company a couple of months now so I've only ever known her to be pregnant, but still - adorable. Almost every time I see her she asks me the same questions that I used to ask my cousin when I was pregnant (my cousin - bless her -  is a mother of 3 all under the age of 6. She had just given birth to her youngest when I found out I was pregnant with Evelyn) and it got me thinking about what kind of advice I would give my pregnant-self if I'd had the chance. So, naturally, I've put together a bit of a list. 

Evelyn @ 1 month old ! July 2013 Jenna Graham Photography 

Flower Child

Jul 7, 2014

These pictures are from a totally impromptu photo "shoot" I did with Evelyn Sunday night in our backyard. I'd gotten a text from my sister reminding me to take pictures of Evelyn in her birthday outfit one of our mutual friends had gotten for her. (Her birthday was almost a month ago and I've been meaning to send her pictures since Evelyn got it. :/ oops!) I was literally getting Evelyn out of the bath when I got the text and was about to put her in her jammies but decided to just go ahead and put this outfit on her instead - she wasn't too fussy yet and it was still light outside - why not? 

So into this adorable hippie dress she went, leather flowered sandals and all and she was totally content with being outside again. This girl seriously loves the outdoors and it had finally cooled off from another one of our notoriously hot, muggy days that we often have here in the South. It was the perfect time of day for a photo shoot. Honestly, I think it turned out pretty nicely considering how very last minute it was. No planning whatsoever. And she was even pretty tired to begin with. Overall I'd say it was a success as far as 5 minute photo-ops go. Maybe I'll have to start keeping them this short from now on to get some genuine expressions out of my child. *noted 

Did you notice the comb she was holding? Told ya she just got out of the bath! :p I realize as I'm working on this post that I didn't get any good pictures of her smiling. That's actually totally fine with me though. She's going through a phase right now where she's totally engrossed with curiosity about anything and everything she comes across. Because of this, most of the time she really doesn't have a smile on her face like she used to - it's always more of a focused look of concentration. But that's just how she is right now and I'll be happy to have these photos later to remember what she actually looked like at any random moment. Or when she's discovering something for the first time and trying to figure out just what that something is. I think it's absolutely beautiful. But then again - I'm her mom, which makes me totally biased. That's okay with me too though. :)

I did manage to get a sort of half-smile here. I'll take it ;)

Do any of you other mom-togs have any tips for getting decent last minute shots of your toddlers? Are there any tricks I should know about for next time? I always love to hear about how other's take different approaches to similar situations so please feel free to leave a comment! 

Independence Day 2014 !

Jul 5, 2014

So I'd say mine and Evelyn's 4th was a success! We were at the pool all day surrounded by family, friends, good drinks, and amazing food - what more could you ask for? And Evelyn LOVED the pool! Between family taking over, wanting to spend time with Evelyn and her nap time coming conveniently right in the middle of the day, Mommy actually got a little relaxation in today too. It was wonderful! Holidays should happen more often ;) 
seriously though y'all.

Nothing too eventful happened today really. And I unfortunately didn't get the pictures that I wanted to take of Evelyn either because I'm such a horrible slacker that I didn't buy one of those cute little flags for her to hold in her pictures; by the time I actually made it to the store they were obviously sold out. Oh well, there's always next year I guess! And I also discovered that Evelyn is not a huge fan of fireworks. A little too loud for her tiny ears I think. Every time one shot into the air she jumped and threw her arms around my neck with her head buried under my chin. We went inside after the 3rd attempt to get her to actually notice the pretty colors. It just wasn't happening for her this year so we watched the backyard light up beautifully from the french doors. 

I've decided to post a few highlights of the day here because I'm tempted to blow up Instagram at the moment and thought this would be a better idea! 
(pictures are in no particular order)

Enjoy !

My babies in the pool! So glad Luis got to come spend time with all of us for a little while!

My Uncle jumping off the retaining wall. He's crazy. I would never.

Evelyn and her aunt Brit!

That face though! ;)

See why a blog post was more appropriate than Instagram? ;) 

Unfortunately I didn't get any of those wonderful fireworks shots (although my uncles had some awesome ones!) but that's perfectly fine with me. My daughter's happiness is much more important than exploding colors. So that pretty much concludes our Independance Day 2014 at Simply Olivia but the weekend is not over and we are still enjoying it to the fullest! Maybe another pool day tomorrow since Evelyn loved it so much? We'll see :)

Hoping everyone had as great a day as we did!

Enjoy your holiday weekend lovelies!!


July Goals!

Jul 1, 2014

Holy crap I can't believe July is already here. 

The year is already half over y'all! Am I the only one who thinks this year is RACING by and I'm over here just blinking dumbfounded like .... what? What month is it again..?

But anyways - snapping back to reality - I've decided to continue what I started a few months ago and post a few of my goals for July. This makes me stick to them a little better since I have readers to hold me accountable! 

So, without further ado, I present to you my July goals :

  • Have a picnic ! 
This has been on my summer to do list for the past 3 years and I still have yet to accomplish it. It's happening this month dammit. 

  • Use my camera every single day and take tons of summer related pictures to eventually make a Photo Book out of . (Another thing that's been sitting on my to do list for a few years)
  • Get ahead at work!
  • Practice more with my tripod
  • [Spoiler alert!] Take at least 5 outfit photo shoots for a summer wardrobe essentials post
  • Get budget organized for all of mine and Luis's debt
  • Have a yard sale!
  • Make Evelyn a flower crown. Commence to taking the most adorable pictures ever seen. 

*exhibit A  - something to this effect. Easy peasy, right? 
  • Write at least one blog post per week
  • Start bringing my own lunch to work. The amount of fast food I've been eating lately is ridiculous and I'm starting to notice in places I'd rather not. Summer is not over, I refuse to look like a whale in my swimsuit. {no matter how few opportunities I actually have to wear it}
  • Have a pool day with Nana and Evie 
  • Stargazing with my man <3 (If I can trick him into it that is)
  • Shop around at the antique malls near my house and find a vintage camera for Evelyn to play with during our photo shoots (maybe it will keep her away from mommy's camera long enough for me to take her picture!)
  • Go back through a few of my Pinterest boards and see what I find. I'm sure they're all overflowing treasure chests of gorgeous photos and crucial information pertaining to my life that I've completely forgotten I'd pinned at some point over the past few years. Time to finally revisit them. 

Okay, I'm stopping myself there because I don't want to make this too impossible for me to complete. I already have my hands full enough with Evelyn alone much less all the extras. Fair warning - some of these may roll over into August.
(And yes, it's perfectly acceptable to use the rollover plan when making life goals. This way you don't take things too seriously ;))

I'd love it if any of my readers want to follow along or link up with me to your own Monthly Goals post on your blog. I'd love to read what's in store for you this month so feel free to leave your link in the comments if you're interested in participating! And even if not, leave me a comment to let me know what your main goal is for the month. It may be something I've forgotten and need to add to my ever-growing list! ;)


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